Bethany Caitlen Flowers

13th February 2011
It has been a long time since I was here lighting candles for our angels, to be honest it has been too hard to come here mostly due to the nature in Bethys passing. I am a little stronger now and have decided they are not going to win, I will not allow them to if for no one's sake it they shall not win for Bethy's memory, my family is not at fault & although I live with the guilt of knowing I was right all along Beth was ill the blame does not lie with me I now accept that and I shall not let the hospital destroy everything about me, my baby girl or my family. I have seen for myself not 1 or 2 counts of negligence but 15 counts of negligence - a total disgrace for our so called brilliant NHS.
All my love and thoughts to our angels and their families.
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I am proud and hope that my baby girl is even prouder, I have got around to putting poems I have written into a book and available on the internet to buy and preview

I hope for those of you that take a peek like and give a little comfort and you'll be able to relate to the words.

http://www.blurb.com/books/1363605

26th March
I am sorry I have not been here for a while have found it hard going and been busy organising Bethany's bench and logging a petition with Downing St - 'Mothers Know Best'

Debbie Flowers 26 March at 22:41
Hi all
I would like to urge you all to read the following link:

http://www.coventryobserver.co.uk/news175713.html

Then please go to the second link as the link in the paper does not take you to the correct page.

http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/forbeth/

This is for all parents/guardians , MEDICS NEED TO LISTEN TO US IT CAN HELP SAVE A LIFE OF A CHILD, MOTHERS KNOW IF THEIR CHILD IS ILL REGARDLESS HOW MANY QUALIFICATIONS THE MEDICS HAVE.

LOVE TO ALL

Deb
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7th Feb

Hi all , well hopefully I am back properly this time but I guess we all go through the rough with the smoother times.
I am feel ready for the fight for justice for Beth and try to help save parents going through what we are - mothers know their than any child better than any medic no matter their rank.Please take a few moments to visit

http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/forbeth/ & please sign , we need to make a stand and make medics LISTEN to us not just hear us.

Thankyou x

19th Jan

Today I am going to try to return here to GTS and some kind of world, i've had a long dark period of time to come here and see the kind words made me feel so sad and I just cried as soon as I logged in.
Today Bethany's story is published in Love It magazine for all to read and I vow to start to try and fight, change protocols of the NHS , make the medics listen to mum , she knows her child better than any doctor on this planet and if mum says her child is ill thy need to sit, listen and take note seriously, hopfully save the lives of other children, love always to each and every angel and friend
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18th Dec.09
Thankyou to everyone who has carried on lighting candles for my angel, we've had a really tough time, finding everything so difficult and attemptng to come on GTS I was just breaking down so hubby advised have a little break.Hopefully i'm back now and able to light candles for your angels.
Love to all xxxxx

23rd November

I would lke to say thankyou to everyone from the bottom of our hearts for all your support, especially on Bethy's Angel day for all the messages, thoughts, candles and Bethy's gifts.We have found it tough going since 27 Oct, seemed like we were right at the begining again - too much going on in too little time if you understand, too much going round and round, nothing making sense.But our Bethy had her fun, the headstone and kerbset was laid the 11th November, I was shocked that it actually made me smile and not cry, it is absolutely beautiful, apart from the shape of the stone it is a 1 of all ready for Beth's 1st Angel Day. Beth had always wanted a yorkie pup , we kept saying no, no more dogs, then after she passed felt so guilty we never brought her 1 about 2 hrs after the stone had been laid there was a knock at the door, a neighbour from the avenue with a yorkie pup in his arms, ours for Beths anniversary if we wanted him, completely free for Bethy, well we couldnt say no, strangely he took to us straight away, if I didnt know better there is some of Beth in there, just something about him, he's cheeky, mischievous and so funny, so Bethypie you got your puppy.We took Bruce to see Beth on her Angel day and he was so good, sat proudly by her garden i'm sure it's an omen - meant to be - Beth sent him to us to bring a little joy into our lives, thankyou baby.
Again thankyou for all your support each and every one of you, godbless - with love always Deb & family xx

4th November

I now hope to be back as normal, we have had Bethany's inquest, it was a 2 day inquest and after much thought the coroner gave a Narrative verdict which in our opinion that is a very good verdict.
We are now seeking further legal advice as to the next steps we take.
Some of you may have seen the meda attention Bethany recieved of which as a family we were extremely pleased with as for the legal issues we were bound to not sayng anything, we have now had our say , our side of the story but also found it daunting for the story to appear in most of the papers nationwide. Between ourselves and our solicitor we agreed to do the press statement for ITV Central news & absolutely astounded that our darling Angel got the exclusive of that nights news & summed it up very well. We were also asked to take part in a chanel 4 documentary for Real Lives , we agreed to help raise more awareness for ' Mother's Know Their Children Best' campaign in the hope that the medical proffession DOES LISTEN TO MUM , the medics do get it wrong.
Please feel free to jon the following group - http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/group.php?gid=168547346235, we am to get as many as possible to join regadless whether you have lost a chhld or not, ths needs fighting for and will eventually delver it to Downng St, please consder joining ths group and pass the lnks to as may people as people you can

http://www.itv.com/central-east/bethanyinquest86029/



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26th August
Beth now has a facebook page Bethany Flowers, loved and missed by all created by her sister Alicia.Please feel free to join & add as friends if desired.

http://www.facebook.com/search/?q=bethany+flowers&init=quick#/group.php?gid=121666862346&ref=search&sid=1417864868.2059898024..1


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August 20th
A very big thankyou to the Talk Angling Fishing Club whom are doing charity events to raise money for Beth's Bench.

One of Bethany's favourite books is The Gruffalo, she read it at school unfortunatley we never brought it for her, other favourite books are Flora's Blanket & Down by the Cool of the Pool, she had these for years and we had to read them over & over again, bless she gave Alica a telling of because she said Alicia was not reading it , she remembered it all, these books are now some of our treasures.

Update - We have since Beth's passing that the cancer was not the cause of her passing, according to specialists at Gt.Ormand St. whom have been called in by the coroner for Beth's case in their statement they say the cancer was curable and that all notes relating to Bethany clearly indicate there was a tracheal block & find it hard to believe that the hospital did not think of this and scan Beth as there were clear signs something was wrong & right up to the point they ventilated her she could have lived.
We have to live with the fact Beth should still be here and it's errors that she is not , consequently there is a case against the hospital for medical negligance leading to Beth's passing, we intend to fight the case all the way for justice to Beth & to try and prevent this happening to other families.The hospital since Beths passing have now or are in the process of changing the procedure for those whom present to them as Beth did, a little too late for Beth but to her family this shows an admittance that they did get it wrong.

My Tribute Video to bethy - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GSmkOT2_ssA

There's nothing this side of heaven
That can compare to you
I can only hope god's garden
Is full of fun for you.
Copyright© Debbie Flowers 2009


May 31st

Bethy's hamster Sweep fell asleep this morning, she's gone to heaven to be with her mummy.

May 23rd 2009

You

You were our ray of sunshine
Our flowers in full bloom
You were a gift of nature
Like the craters on the moon
You were the springtime showers
Refreshing and oh so light
You were the stars up in the sky
Shining with all your pride
You were the rain that meets the sun
With such beauty for all to see
You were the colours of the rainbow
That stretch to heaven from earth
But most of all my darling Beth
You are my joy and pride.

Copyright© Debbie Flowers


May 18th 2009

Although you live in heaven
We will never be apart
You have a special place inside my broken heart.
When my heart stops beating
My soul will live again
For that's the eternal moment
That we will meet again
Copyright© Debbie Flowers 2009 dedicated to my beautiful daughter Beth


April 27th 2009

Bethany's star we have named in her honour:

http://www.freenameastar.com/viewstar.php?id=16298
http://www.freenameastar.com/cert3A4.php?id=16298

April 1st 2009 April Fools day.

Thankyou Beth for our 1st feather , its so beautiful , soft & so white , look forward to the next 1.

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This is for Mr Martin , Beth's teacher , he is more than just a teacher he is a friend which makes him a better teacher, with compassion, genuine and kind hearted.
This is how Beth would Percieve her teacher

The Teacher Gets A+

Mr Martin
I looked forward to your class
When I came to school.
You're an awesome teacher;
I think you're very cool.
You're smart and fair and friendly;
You're helping all of us.
And if I got to grade you,
From me you'd get an Angel A+!

Your Angel Bethy
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Bethy - My Angel , my darling.
I can only assume you have given me a gift of creativity since you became an Angel , I have never been so creative. I have written you some poems , dont know where they came from , apart fom knowing you were right beside me while I was writing them.
So here they are Bethy , dedicated to you my Sweet Angel.
I have the copyright of these poems.

A Special Candle

I have a special candle
It’s just from me to you
It contains that special string
No one else can see
It must like the apron strings
That hold you close to me
I’ve wrapped your candle up with love
The one between you and me
Inside there is a little note
With words no one else can see
It has all our little secrets
The ones between you and me
They made us laugh they made us cry
They are there for all eternity
When I light your candle
It will remind me of your life
And how you came to be
The light within my life.
So you see it really is
Just from me to you
The light that connects us both
Until i’m back with you.
Copyright© Debbie Flowers dedicated to my beautiful daughter Beth.


The Missing Piece?

We tried to be a family last night
We tried so very hard
We had a go at painting
A paint by colour flower
We came to paint the yellow colour
The pot had disappeared.
We tried to do a jigsaw
We tried so hard to smile
But when we got to the last piece
That too had disappeared
So we thought ah, a little game of cards
Might bring us a bit of cheer
We couldn’t finish our game
A card had gone astray
We said amongst ourselves
“What on earth is going on?”
Then we all remembered
No matter what we try
We are not a real family
THE MISSING PIECE IS YOU.
Copyright© Debbie Flowers 2009 dedicated to my beautiful daughter Beth.





The Greatest Gift

Never mind the roses,
Or the teddies that you brought.
The greatest gift I had from you,
Was the day that you were born.

I know you're now in heaven,
And cannot buy me gifts.
The best thing I can have from you,
Is your special Angel kiss.

I would trade in every gift,
That you have ever brought.
To go back in time again,
To the day that you were born.
Copyright© Debbie Flowers 2009 dedicated to my beautiful daughter Beth.


Heaven

From morning’s first light to evenings last star
Never forget how special you are
Now you’re an Angel in a heavenly realm
Where there is joy and there is laughter
You will never find pain.
Have fun up in heaven for all of you days
Climbing up rainbows and sliding back down
Jumping around the fluffy white clouds
Chasing flutterbyes and baby spring lambs
Smelling the flowers and dancing around.
Your earthly loss is a heavenly gain
Your feathers so white and very pristine
Your shiny new halo upon your blonde hair
Wear them with pride with your beautiful smile
As I look up to the heavens above
I will blow you a kiss all wrapped in my love
Catch and keep it as close as you can
You do the same from heaven to me
And this will be the tie till we meet again.
Copyright© Debbie Flowers 2009 dedicated to my beautiful daughter Beth.



Godbless my darling, love you always.
Mummy
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A BIG thankyou to everyone who lit and sent Bethy a picture and or present for her birthday , thankyou for all the kind words to help us get through the day there are a few pics on her picture page showing Beth's sky lanterns that were lit and let of to celebrate Bethy's birthday
THANKYOU , appreciated
Also thankyou to all our family and friends who turned out in the freezing weather & for all Bethy's gifts and flowers it was overwhelming & a special thankyou to Beth's teacher - Mr Martin for coming - Beths flowers were beautiful.
To our very own Angel 'Bethypie'

Sent to mummy and daddy on loan from above, pure magic, a breath of fresh air, an Angel born without her wings.
Beautiful & precious daughter of Debbie & Richard, baby sister to Rebekah, Alicia & Martin, dearly loved grandaughter of Yvonne & James, John & Doreen, great grandaughter of Jean & Dennis, special auntie to Chloe & Kaydon, much loved niece, cousin,friend, suddenly taken from us 16th November 2008 aged 10 years.
Beth went to Moat House Primary School , Coventry , she will be greatly missed , judging by the memorial wall they have done for Beth nearly every single memo there says something about she was always smiling and happy & how they will miss her so much.
Beth had only been poorly for just over 2 weeks , being treated for asthma/breathing difficulties.We were sent to hospital 8 times 4 by ambulance , each time they sent Beth home 'nothing wrong', finally she was admitted the night before she passed , they took her of all medication including the inhaler she had been prescribed to keep the airways in her lungs open more - they said they wanted to see how she went overnight.She woke on the sunday having breathing difficulties , by 10.30am she had a respiritory attack
, boy did they move quick - tho not fast enough in the prior 2 weeks, she was taken to HD ward , bless my little Angel she was so brave, she wasn't there an hour before she needed IC & ventilating , the xray Beth had on the friday night - yet another visit to A & E - that was alledgedly clear , sunday the very same xray was not clear to the trained eye.
From here on it was just a downward spiral , a complete nightmare , the hospital does not have a child intensive care unit , they started to phone for beds the nearest 3 were full , the next one available was 50 miles away , we had to wait 2 long hours for that hospital peadiatric IC team to get to us to take Beth back , they couldn't use the air ambulance - their reason - it doesn't fly at night!
The team got to Beth , I have to admit they fought long & hard to keep her alive , our ultimate choice was given , we left her where she was & she died or we risked moving her & she had a chance - 50/50 - obviously we took the later it was worth a chance - but she was miraculously going to a hospital alot nearer to us like , 30 miles away to try and get to a blood dialasis machine to try and pump oxygen into her blood because her tubes in the lungs were so small they were not letting the oxygen out.Beth was taken by police escort her ambulance sanwiched in between 2 police vehicles whilst another sped ahead with all her medication and bloods, sadly Beth never made it very far from us , she was too tired I guess.
Initially we thought Beth passed after a huge asthma attack, after her autopsey we found she had cancer in her Trachea - hence the breathing difficulty.
She had a rare cancer called Sarcoma which apparently there is only 30 cases ever recorded of this type of cancer and in the chest cavity - Beth may have been the first for the trachea - the doctors sat at my table and told me and my husband Beth taught them something new - why did it have to be my baby to teach doctors something new - why didnt they know already?
We are living with the nightmare of out beautiful baby passng away , then cancer on top , we learnt just before christmas the coroner has decided to take Beth's case to magistrates court , we will now have to go through it all again.
I hope they find and give us answers not that it will help.
Why oh why do these doctors not listen to the parents or children properly.

Beth you touched the hearts of so many lives and missed every minute of every day.
Bethy's funeral was Dec 2nd we couldn't do anything else for her so we gave her white horses & carriage, the horses with pink plumes and coats she was walked past her school who had decorated the gates and fences in big pink ribbons and bows - she would have loved it , the church was overbriming.
Dec 8th Beth's school lit and let 11 sky candles of into the heavens in Beth's honour and to celebrate her life - it was beautiful very emotional but touching.

We would like to thank everyone who has lit candles for Beth and all the help & support we have recieved.
But still I wonder if only had the doctors listened would Beth have been a survivor - we will never get the chance to know.

Godbless Angel , you brave brave little girl , I am so proud to call you my daughter.

If tears could build a stairway
And heartache a lane
We'd climb the path to heaven
And bring you home again.

She lives not here on Earth
But way up high
With her Angel wings she passes by
A gentle breeze to let us know
She's watching us on Earth below.

Beth you now have your wings as you so deserve.
Our hearts ache when we think of you
We long to hold you close
Your gentle kiss, your loving touch & Angel smile are the things we miss the most
Love you always & forever in our hearts, Godbless 'Bethypie'
Love, cuddles & big fat kisses
Mummy & daddy
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Bethany was a Girl Guide in the 25th Unit St Laurence,she is missed by all of her fellow guides,Denise - captain of the unit said "Bethy was a livewire, the soul of the party.
In memory of Beth they are having a trophy designed and made to be called 'The Bethany Flowers Trophy' it will be awarded each year to the guider of the year - now I call that an acomplishment for a ten year old little girl to have a trophy designed in her honour , my girl!

Stay with Me by Ironik is dedicated to Beth by her friend Lauren on you tube - just go to youtube and type in Bethany Flowers - there you can see her tributes from her friends.

Miss you by Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana is dedicated to Beth by her Friend Maja - Beth loved Hannah Montana